HOW TO BE A GOOD WEDDING GUEST

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Congratulations!  You've just been invited to a wedding.  You're probably familiar with the fact that the best man and maid of honor have certain duties to the bride and groom.  You should also be aware that as a guest, so do you.  The couple have selected you to attend and share their special day.  You should be prepared to be on your best behavior.  Here are a few things to consider.

 

RSVP...we beg you!

You will probably recieve an RSVP card with your invitation.  USE IT.  You normally get it about 4 weeks before the deadline.  Don't file it away thinking "I have plenty of time."  This is a great way to forget or misplace it.  Go ahead and take a few minutes to let the couple know your intentions.  The vendors need a headcount weeks before so there will be enough food, drink and wedding favors to accomodate you.  Sneak your RSVP in past the deadline and you'll make a lot of people scramble and not very happy.

 

 

Are you on the guestlist?

Don't add a plus one.  If your name is the only one on the envelope, you're the only one invited. You might also consider this while deciding if you should bring your children.  If the invitation is made out to the Smith Family or the kids are listed on the inside envelope, consider bringing your rug rats.  Otherwise, please invest in a babysitter.  Besides, it's nice to have an adult night out now and then.

 

 

 

It's not about you

Seriously?  How difficult is it to arrive on time? The bride and grown didn't save and plan for a year so you can walk down the aisle in front of the maid of honor.  Plan on arriving 30 minutes before the ceremony is scheduled.  If there is some unforseen circumstance that prevents you arriving on time (like a tornado or alien space ship) wait until the ceremony is over and join the guests at the reception.  

 

Also, consider the focus of the wedding when selecting what to wear.  Be respectful of the dress code and dress appropriately.  Try not to wear anything that will draw unnecassry attention to yourself, like a long white dress.

 

Do not play paparazzi

There is no reason for you to take pictures during a wedding ceremony.  NONE.  At best your flash is ruining the professional photos being made by the professional photographer and blinding the wedding party.  At worst, you iPhone or iPad is blocking the aisle and preventing the paid team of photographers and videographers from getting the moments they were paid to capture.  The couple wants to look out and see your smiling face, not the back of your phone.

You might also consider not plastering every moment you capture on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.  Many candid shots including first look, have been ruined by well meaning guests who are updating their status.

 

 

Because I said so that's why

Be a team player. Go prepared to play along.  Is everyone expected to dance?  Boogie down.  Is everyone lined up at the photobooth?  Say cheese.  By accepting the couple's invitation you are agreeing that you are up for whatever they throw your way. Your accomodating attitude will be remebered for years to come.

 

 

Step away from the bar

Open bar does not equal "please drink as much as you can hold and dance on the table."  Drinking too much can be embarrassing (for you and the couple) as well as dangerous.  Unless you planned on blacking out earlier, you probably don't have a ride home.  Also, consider the photographer and videographer haven't been drinking and are there to record every cringe inducing move you make.  Pace yourself so you can toast with the couple until the reception is over.

 

 

 

Go postal

To prevent friend/family of the couple or the wedding planner from having to load her car and deliver 200 pounds worth of gifts, please mail your present.  All registries will have a shipping address.  This will allow the couple to open gifts at their convenience and make sure the purchase is insured until arrival.  Even if you're giving cash, you can still mail a check or money order.  This will insure it doesn't get lost in the commotion or even taken.  

 

These are a few suggestions for your consideration before attending your next wedding. Be sure to contact Mr Burch about your wedding attire.  We're here to help you look good.

TALMADGE VISITS THE WHITE ROOM BRIDAL SALON

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

After a good rest on vacation in Gatlinburg we were ready to start visiting some local shops. Where should we go first? We started out at The White Room located in the heart of Mountain Brook Village. I was a little nervous sending that first Facebook message to Cathy Kelley, one of the owners , trying to explain exactly what I was doing. What response would I get? Would it be similar to my families? Nope. Cathy was very receptive and we had an appointment to meet her and the get a tour of her store two days later.
 
 
It was a beautiful morning in Mountain Brook and Talmadge was wearing our new fitted white Providence notch tuxedo, after Labor Day I know, but we were visiting The White Room. Right?
 
 
 
As we were taking a couple of photos outside Cathy came out the front door and got a picture with our sharp dressed man. When we finished outside, it was time to see what the White Room was all about. 
 
 
 
When you walk in the front door you are immediately greeted by beautiful things. A curio full of sparkling jewelry and a few mannequins of their own adorned in the prettiest of dresses. As you make your way into the main showroom you are met with a feeling of style and sophistication. The dresses line the walls hanging from custom racks, a comfortable seating area, and one of the coolest chandeliers I have ever seen. Cathy was nice enough to give me a grand tour of the place and it is larger inside than you think. Every nook and cranny is decorated elegantly and the break room is to die for! I’m a guy and I would shop for a dress here! I sat down with Cathy and Carolyn in the showroom to get an insight on how the business got started and a little background. 
 
 
 
Carolyn Kelley started altering dresses for the only couture shop in Birmingham at the time. Ladies from Birmingham would go to Atlanta and pick out their dresses then come home to get altered. As her work became recognized Carolyn became the name in town for wedding dress alterations. After a while Carolyn realized that this was a successful business to be in and has not looked back. Seeing the need for alterations and the majority of ladies flocking to Atlanta for wedding gowns, the next step was a no brainer, to open a bridal shop. All the lines that the ladies were bringing back were designers that were not yet offered in the state of Alabama. Carolyn decided to offer those designers right here in Birmingham. Having that idea in mind, Carolyn placed an ad in an upcoming bridal magazine connecting her name with it, even before she had actually opened a store. This was very successful seeing that her name was well recognized in the business. The publication came out in 2004 and the first store was opened January 2005 in Old Town Helena, Alabama where Cathy came in as an owner/manager. After 5 years there they moved The White Room to Cahaba Heights and after 5 years there saw a great opportunity in Mountain Brook.  They have been at the present location since June of this year. 
 
 
 
In the short time I spent with these two ladies it was apparent their genuine passion not only for the business but also for the bride-to-be’s satisfaction. Their personalities are infectious and I left the shop with a smile on my face. Just a note, their semi-annual black tie event with gowns up to 80% off is in full swing and will end September 30th so hurry in. Thanks to Carolyn and Cathy Kelley for the chance to visit with them and we hope to see them soon.

HAVE YOU MET TALMADGE?

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Talmadge? Talmadge who?
 
 
 
That is a very good question. Some of you who follow Mr Burch and my personal Facebook page may have noticed some posts including a well-dressed (most of the time) mannequin we have named Talmadge. Where did he come from? He was hiding in the warehouse, deep in our shipping department. Amongst all the other mannequins he was the one with a smile on his face and a 3 inch layer of dust covering his entire form. The idea came to me while making plans to take a vacation to Gatlinburg, Tennesse. Why not take a mannequin with me and not only show the beautiful sites but also showcase some of the great looking tuxedos and suits Mr Burch has in inventory? The plan was in motion.
 
 
 
The name Talmadge was my Grandfather’s name and seemed appropriate, meshing an old name with the world today. It is also a very unique name that people will not forget. 
 
 
 
Once I got approval from the bosses, which took a little convincing, I was quick to put in tuxedo orders for Talmadge to wear on our trip. Trying to explain to my family that I would be bringing a mannequin with me on our trip was met with laughter and a couple of “have you lost your mind?” looks. After I explained the idea they were more receptive but still had their reservations. I was especially worried that Talmadge might scare my nephew, 5, and my nieces, 4 and 1. Surprisingly they found him quite interesting and fun and helped me with him. The looks that I received as I was walking down the sidewalk in Gatlinburg are priceless and a huge thanks to my sister, Mary Dillard, for doing most of the photography.
 
 
 
We had a blast with him on our trip. We went to the Smoky Mountain National Park, The Apple Barn, downtown Gatlinburg, and many other places. (See Facebook for our family vacay photos.)
 
 
 
Since our trip he has been relaxing for a bit but he has plans on visiting local businesses, landmarks, and other wedding vendors. Where will he be next? Who knows. He might show up at your door soon. 
 
 
 
Would you like Talmadge to visit you?  Let us know.

HOW TO GET GREAT HOMECOMING PHOTOS

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Homecoming is here and most parents can't wait to break out the camera.  You want to be certain to get a few pics that you (and the kids) will be proud of.  Take a look at a few tips listed below.
 
 
Try to get a good background:  Your backyard will probably make a good background for your photos.  If it's getting dark outside, don't forget the flash.
 
 
 
Get individual shots:  Most parents take photos of the couple or group before they go out but you might also consider individual shots as well.  This way you'll have a great momento even if the couple isn't dating later.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Get different group shots: You definitely want to photograph the entire group, but you might also want to get varying group shots like just girls or all the guys together.   Don't forget to get a shot of each couple as well.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Sweat the details:  A lot of time and money goes into getting ready for any formal event.  Be sure to capture the details like the corsage, vintage earrings or special hair do.
 
 
 
 
 
 
Everything doesn't have to be planned:  Kids will be kids.  Let them have fun and capture a few images of them playing around.  These spontaneous (not posed) photos will probably be some of your favorites.  Plus most kids will want fun, individual shots for their Facebook profile.
 
 
 
 
 
Hopefully, this will help you capture the moments before the formal and give you some great momentos.  Don't forget to contact Mr. Burch for all your formal fashion needs.  We are here to help.

HOMECOMING DO'S AND DON'TS

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Fall is here and football season has started.  That can only mean one thing - time for HOMECOMING!  For those of you who might not have attended before, don't worry, we're here to help.  Take a look at our do's and don'ts listed below.
 
DO
Dress up:  While not as formal as prom, homecoming has become an occasion to break out a formal dress. Whether long and elegant or short and sassy, just make sure your dress is comfortable. It’s going to be a long night. This applies to you gentlemen as well.  You can dress up in a tuxedo or wear a suit but make sure the fit is right and you're comfortable. 
 
 
 
Coordinate:  Some girls go as far as giving their date a color swatch to assist them when tie shopping. As a rule, tie/dress should be in the same color family. 
 
Wear comfortable shoes:  Super high heels look great, but won’t feel great after a while. Many girls pack ballet slippers or flip flops for a quick change before hitting the dance floor.
 
Take time for proper grooming:  Get a mani/pedi. Get your hair done. Gents, get a haircut early in the week to give your style time to “grow in.” Pack mints. Trust me.
 
 
 
DON'T
Wear a hat:  Who do you think you are?  Ducky from Pretty In Pink
 
Coordinate multiple articles of clothing:  This is too matchy-matchy and a definite DON'T.
 
Get your date a nose-gay:  Do you even know what that is? Girls prefer a small wrist corsage.
 
Overdo the make-up:  There’s nothing worse than seeing a smear of base or blush on your date’s shirt collar after a slow dance.
 
 
 
And most importantly: DON’T sweat the details!  Have fun and enjoy yourself. That’s what high school is all about.  Contact Mr Burch for all your tuxedo rental or suit needs.  We're here to help!

2014 BIGGEST WEDDING TRENDS

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

So far, 2014 has been a big wedding year and we're not done yet.  Let's take a look at some of the hot wedding trends this year and what you can expect for the rest of 2014.

Back In Black

Formal black tie affairs never go out of style.  But this year couples are opting for all the dapper extras.  You'll see white gloves and bow ties whether they're celebrating in a ballroom or backyard.  There is a tuxedo for every occasion.

Remember:  Your guests need guidance for the dress code.  You should provide attendees with examples of fashion do's and don'ts on your wedding website.

 

 

Once Bitten

Your guests won't have to worry about balancing a signature cocktail and appetizer plate if you serve delicious selections that can be eaten with one hand. 

Remember:  Work with your caterer to customize your menu and create small, playful options.

 

Photo by B&A Warehouse

Make it Personal

Personal touches are what make your wedding unique and showcase your personality.  Whether it's the monogram on the dance floor or guest's names on the tables, those additional details make a big difference.

Remember:  You don't need a big budget to make a big impression.  A chalkboard display with your dating history or a pictorial timeline are great and inexpensive personal additions.

 

Image from 2 Hearts Weddings Blog

Let The Flowers Flow

You can't have a wedding without flowers and bouquets are having a big moment in 2014.  Let your floral designer breath new life into your displays with more fluid, asymmetrical arrangements.

Remember:  Balance is important.  If the bridal bouquet is overflowing, you might keep your bridesmaid's flowers in a tighter bunch.

 

 

Image provided by Lillie's Flowers
 
 
 
Twinkle Twinkle Little Chandelier
 
Chandeliers are big right now.  No ceiling?  No problem.  You can hang a chandelier from a tree branch or tent.
 
 
 
Remember:  Less can be more.  A single chandelier can make a big impression while creating a focal point for the I dos.
 
 
 
Image courtesy of Lillie's Flowers
 
 
Stay tuned.  More to come in our next post.

MY TRIP TO MARKET PART 2

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

The next day I was with Wayne, Lonnie and Greg checking out the new tuxedos and suits from a variety of vendors. Here are some of what we saw at Market. 
 
David Tutera
This was the first booth we stopped by and took a look at the brand new line of tuxedos by David Tutera. This diamond Ice tuxedo has a great look for a destination or outside wedding. The multicolored bowtie really sets off this tux and reminds me of an old southern wedding.
 
 
Michael Kors                                                                                            
Next stop was the guys at Michael Kors. We all know that with a name like Michael Kors it's going to be a very hot item with brides. We purchased the grey Passion tuxedo by Michael Kors and it has been a hit. But what about a black one?
 
 
 
 
Ike Behar
 
Ike Behar was next. The offering of a Navy Tux was surprising at first but Navy is on the way back. Hard to decide which one looks the best.
 
 
 
Allure Men
 
We ended the day with Allure Men. Allure has had huge success with their bridesmaids and prom dress line but now they offer formal wear for men. Allure men has a great line of tuxedos. This is the new cement tuxedo offered in both a notch and peak lapels. We really like the light grey look and mixing and matching coats and pants with accessories gives you so many choices.
 
 
 
 
That trip was a very enjoyable and enlightening one that gave me an insight into another facet of the tuxedo rental and sales industry. Check back soon for our announcements on what we purchased from this trip. We are still trying to decide so give us feedback if you would like. Follow us on social media and let us know. The customer is always right! It was a great time and I look forward to next year.

10 ALTERNATIVES TO A TRADITIONAL GUEST BOOK

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Your marriage is the beginning of the rest of your life with your spouse.  Your wedding is how you celebrate that beginning.  The little details are your chance to reflect your personality and show off your style.  Don't miss an opportunity to embrace your uniqueness.  

While wedding traditions are there if you require some guidance, rules are made to be broken.  The traditional guest book is a lovely idea but few couple display their book after the nuptials are over.  Why not create a keepsake that become a daily reminder of your wedding?  Take a look at these 10 alternatives to the tradtional wedding guest book.

1.  Thumb Print Guest Tree:  Each guest puts their thumbprint on a branch and signs their name.

2.  Wishing Stones:  Each guest writes a wish for the new couple.

 

3.  Balloon Art:  Each guest signs a balloon and attaches it to art that will be framed and displayed.

 

 

4.  Love notes:  Guests write a message and insert into an envelope.

 

 

5.  Key to success:  Adorable concept and easy to understand.

 

 

6.  Life is a puzzle:  Guests sign puzzle pieces for future assembly and display.

 

7.  Tree of love:  Write your special message to the couple and hang on the tree for display.

 

8.  Map it out:  Guests sign on the destination they suggest the couple visit.

 

 

9.  Getting to know you:  Ask your guests to write a story of how they know you.

 

10.  Love songs:  Guests sign the vinyl version of your special song.

 

2014 SUIT TRENDS FOR GROOM AND GROOMSMEN

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

When attending a wedding, keep in mind that it’s better to be overdressed (only slightly though. Don’t show up in a tux to a semi-formal wedding!) than under-dressed. If you want to dress down during the wedding, you can take off your jacket if need be. Additionally, suits can be rented if you don’t want to break the bank on a suit in an obscure color.  You can usually find a close enough double and at a fraction of the cost.
 
 
Now, here are some up and coming suit trends for the groom to be that bring a modern day twist to the classic tuxedo.
 
 
 
 
1. COLORS
 
 
Just as pink is the new white for brides, grey is the new black for grooms. Lately, there has been an increase in tan or beige suits for summer weddings, and grey suits for fall or winter weddings. Another popular trend is to incorporate an accent color from the bridal party into the groomsmen’s attire.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
2. SUSPENDERS
Suspenders are the perfect way to add a funky and modern, yet subtle, twist to any groom’s outfit. Also a great option for groomsmen and ring bearers!
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
3. BOW TIES
Bow ties are trendy and stylish, the perfect way to make a splash on your wedding day. Embrace your funky side!
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Pretty snazzy huh? The great thing about these trends becoming more popular is that there are more choices and bargains for menswear than ever!

 

This post originally appeared in The Wedding Party and was written by by Kaitlin Perata

IT'S YOUR WEDDING - HAVE FUN WITH IT

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

You've been planning this day since you decided to share your life with your forever love, make sure you have fun with it! Add one or all of these fun ideas to your wedding make sure a great time is had by all.
 
 
Mix-matched Wedding Party
Think outside the box when it comes to selecting your wedding party. Maybe your groom is super close to his sister and prefers to have a Best Maid rather than a Best Man, or perhaps your BFF is a guy and has earned the title of Man of Honor in your wedding party. Don't be afraid to have your wedding party truly represent the relationships in your life. It's 2014 and it's perfectly acceptable for you to choose an all male or all female wedding party or any combination of the two. It's your day so it should be a true picture of your life and the special people in it. Terms like Bridesmen and Groomsmaids are gaining more popularity all the time.
 
 
 
 
Signature Drinks
Whether you are hosting a spiked or virgin event, creating a signature drink to serve to your honored guests is a fun idea and a great way to add a little pop of your personality to the affair. Your Signature Drink may have a story behind it that you could share with your friends and family like how you two created the concoction or it what was you ordered on your first date. Theres also an app for that...you can enter elements of your relationship and personalities and the drink that is right for you will be produced for you. The cocktail hour is a great time to serve these Signature drinks with an explanation for your guests. You can also have them served at the bar or passed all evening.
 
 
 
 
Midnight Snack
Last but not least, send them out with a smile. A great way to signal that the evening is drawing to a close is to serve a “midnight snack”. Although your party may not be rockin' till the stroke of 12, the idea of something a little extra after dessert to finish off the event is a fun way to say goodnight. Popular midnight snack ideas are milk and cookies, fries with special dipping sauces, ice cream, or popcorn. Pick something that speaks to you. This is a great place to get creative with packaging, too. Include a send off message thanking your friends and family with their special treat, and its sure to be talked about it for events yet to come.
 
 
 
 
Remember to have fun while planning the big day. The perfect combination of somber and celebration makes for a charmed affair. Happy Planning!